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I participated in Janice' s *Beyond Chemistry* series in Spring 2004 ... [ and] became engaged in September, 2004! Thanks Janice!
-- Becky[Click here to read more]
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Dear Janice, I just wanted to write to let you know that I've been seeing A. for two years now. We have a really good, solid relationship and I would like to thank you. Without your help writing the Match.com profile, using your *One Minute Quiz,* and most importantly our talks, I don't think I would be at this point. We are very happy together! A. is a very loyal, bright, honest, generous, person and though now it is obvious he's not perfect, I know the important stuff is there. He has a very nice, normal family who are loving and laugh a lot. . . . So thank you and I hope you enjoyed the good news! M. Yes M., I'm so happy for you! I remember you were extremely frustrated in your search for a life partner relationship, and you were very receptive to working on yourself in order to be a better person, and therefore a better partner. And it worked! Congrats and keep me informed!
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 I got the call last week to give my expert opinion on why singer-acrtress Jessica Simpson is having difficulty finding a committed relationship after divorcing her husband, Nick Lachey. Since her divorce, I was told that Jessica has been disappointed in her search for a new partner, yet dating a variety of "unattainable men." So I was asked why Jessica was engaging in this pattern. To which I said, (as seen on page 73) "It's possible that Jessica is conflicted about being in a committed relationship again, so she's dating men who are unattainable," NYC-based relationship expert Dr. Janice D. Bennett tells Us. I don't know Jessica, but from what I'm told, Jessica broke one of my cardinal rules about how to, and why, leave a marriage -- Never leave thinking that you'll find someone better; leave only if you would rather be alone for the rest of your life than to be with this person for another minute. You can read more about Jessica and her struggle online at Us Magazine. Or you can request a pdf of the article for your own use by going to the Contact Us page.
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I've worked with singles for over 20 years and witnessed how many have become so frustrated in their dating efforts that they feel hopeless and ready to give up. My teleclasses are designed to help you learn how to go *beyond chemistry* to evaluate true compatibility, make healthy decisions and attain the relationship you really want.
If you haven't taken a teleclass with me yet, this summer is the time! Join me for my FRE^E *Beyond Chemistry* Teleclass: Create a Dating Road Map to Find Your Life Partner scheduled for Tuesday, July 17th from 9-10 pm EDT. If you're frustrated with the state of your life-partner search, you need the information I provide in the *Beyond Chemistry* teleclasses now more than ever! I will introduce you to a new perspective about dating to help you feel more confident, and less frustrated, in your pursuit of a loving, committed relationship. Or, if you're READY FOR A MORE INTENSIVE SHAPE-UP, try The *Beyond Chemistry* Teleclass Series: Use What You Know
to Finally Find Your Life Partner. I've designed this 4-part teleclass coaching series to teach you how to
access what you already know about yourself and others and to apply
this knowledge to successfully navigate the dating process, overcome
your relationship obstacles, and FINALLY find your life partner. This teleclass series is scheduled for four consecutive Wednesdays,
July 25th, August 1st, 8th and 15th 2007 from 9-10 pm EDT and costs $120. To learn more about these teleclasses, as well as how to register (and a special discount), go to the Teleclasses and Events page.
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Here's how YOU translated this statement, "Let's get together again soon" made by a guy you like after a fun date.
37% said it means, "He likes me & will call soon to get together again."
28% said it means, "He likes me, but still wants to look around."
24% said it means, "He's not sure he likes me, but wants to be polite."
11% said it means, "This is a kiss-off."
I think these results indicate there still is a lot of room for improvement in the way singles communicate their interest in one another. Saying "let's get together again soon" is basically non-committal. If it was clear, then why would only 37% of those polled say that it means something positive? Instead, over 63% thought that doubt was conveyed much more than certainty.
The message that is the "take away" from this poll is this -- speak up and say what you mean to each other! Be clear about your interest and your intentions. When you say "Let's get together again soon," then say when that might be. And if you plan to call, then say when you'll actually call. If you're unsure, then it would be better to say, "I'm not sure where this is going for me. If I decide it's something I want to pursue, then I'll let you know within a week. If not, then take not hearing from me as a 'no.'" Now that's pretty brave, but wouldn't you rather hear that then "let's get together again soon" and think he merely wants to be polite? I think not.
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 It appears as though I've become one of the "go-to" experts for a very nice (and smart, of course) Us Weekly reporter, because she called me again -- this time to ask for my impressions about Kate Hudson's break-up with Owen Wilson. Not that I know Kate or Owen personally, mind you. But the magazine was interested in understanding why relationships that begin as extra-marital affairs usually don't seem to last. You can read my expert opinions in the article "The End of the Affair" which begins on page 56 of the January 15th edition. But in case you can't wait to get to your local newstand, here's what I had to say about why their breakup may have been inevitable, "Those relationships don't last because they're an escape from dealing with the real issues in another relationship," Janice D. Bennett, an NYC-based clinical psychologist, tells Us. "For Kate, it's likely that Owen's purpose changed from being a distraction, which he probably did very well, to 'Let's see if we can make this into a real relationship.' Which completely changes the rules." They decided to use my "psychologist" moniker, not "relationship-coach" this time -- but I was quoted correctly and my name was spelled right! And it's gratifying to have national exposure! I'll have pdf copies of the article (which includes lots of photos of Owen, Kate and even her mom, Goldie Hawn) to send out if it's for your own personal use. Just go to the "contact us" page to request one.
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Media Alert!! Here's what I hope you'll be doing on Tuesday, November 28, 2006 from 3:15-3:45 pm Eastern -- listening to the "Women Aloud" radio show streamed through your computer to hear me talk about Long Distance Relationships. All you have to do is go to the Greenstone Radio/Women Aloud website, and click on "Listen," and you're there! This is actually going to be my second time being interviewed by Mo Gaffney and Shana Wride, two very funny and real women interested in what I have to say about love, dating and relationships. And you can ask me questions that I'll answer on the show too! All you have to do is either send in your questions ahead of time to live@womenaloud.com, or call in to the station at 1.866.51.ALOUD during the live stream.
Help me to help you, Mo and Shana, and other listeners learn how to navigate the rocky waters of long distance relationships by participating in the show. You'll also be supporting my efforts to demonstrate how coaching can successfully help singles attain the kind of relationships and lives they really want.
So please join me! And if you like what you hear, be sure to make your opinions known by sending an email to live@womenaloud.com and asking that I be invited back. . . . often!
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 I'm happy to announce that another coaching client just got engaged! Here's what Allison, age 37 from New York, had to say about her coaching experience --From our very first phone conversation, Janice helped me to make finding a relationship a priority, because up until then I was busy building a successful career. Once my fiance and I decided to become exclusive, Janice encouraged me ask the "difficult" questions so I could determine if he and I were on the same page with regard to our life goals and desire for commitment. Now, as we plan our wedding, Janice continues to help me to ask the "difficult" questions, and navigate the ever-increasing number of decisions that must be made about our future. I enjoy working with Janice and recommend coaching highly. During every call (and email), Janice expressed friendliness, concern and genuine care for me. I found that it really is true--if you focus on your goals, you can achieve them--and Janice can help you get there!" Congratulations, Allison! (Read more testimonials by clicking here).
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